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The advance of marriage equality may be less a product of political strategy or moral evolution (or devolution) than of the lessening objective importance of marriage itself.
The detachment of sexuality from sexual reproduction had to entail a relative devaluation of “holy matrimony” – i.e., procreative monogamy. There have been, of course, multiple and mutually reinforcing conditions at play in this process. The least that can be suspected is that the decline of traditional marriage and its declining material usefulness or necessity are bi-conditional. If as fundamental a social-cultural institution as marriage is in substantial decline, thus allowing the rise of marriage equality as a political project, the phenomenon must reflect objective alterations in human circumstances generally, at least within the wealthier societies of the West, and may foreshadow even greater changes to come.
Marriage, to the traditionalists, cannot be reduced to elective affinity – “lifestyle choice,” “personal commitment,” even “love relationship” – because to them it is a matter of the highest seriousness: Not a matter of imaginary and sentimental, implicitly random and contingent relationships, as easily revocable as they are freely chosen, but a matter of life and death, and more of the latter than beneficiaries of historically recent advances in medicine and public health tend to recall. The cultures in which marriage equality is advancing are the ones in which complications of childbirth have not for a very long time been a leading cause of death among women; in which births per family in the politically relevant sectors have fallen below replacement rate; in which lifespans beyond the child-bearing years as well as the child-bearing years themselves have been extended. The accompanying developments, including the broad participation of women in the workforce and civil society, have tended to equalize men and women as citizens, and a parallel equalization of rights and expectations has occurred within heterosexual marriages, alongside a lessening of social distinctions privileging or stigmatizing married versus divorced or never-married individuals.







